5 Power Emotions to watch out
July 15, 2008
Power Emotions? What is that? Have you heard of that in the past? I believe a lot in power emotions rather than Positive or Negative Emotions. we all undergo certain Negative and Positive Emotions. Negative Emotions include Fear, Insecurity, Depression (extreme of being sad) and Positive include many such as Confidence, Motivation and so on. I am sure this moment you can recall the Emotions that you undergo everyday. Of these can you check for yourself how many Emotions are Resourceful? It’s not about useful and not useful emotions but is Resourceful and Not-Resourceful emotions. Imagine in a day of 24 hours we spend 16 hours of our time on unresourceful Emotions what is the kind of results we produce? Negative I am sure you accept right. can we change this? Interestingly it takes a Moment to Change.
Unfortunate that many people are not aware of what are useful or not so useful emotions of life. We think that Anger, Frustration are Negative Emotions and we must remove them. I guess NO! Wondering why I say so? Read on for you to understand why I call these as the Power Emotions and why these are important for us.
Anger:
This is probably the Best and the Most Resourceful State. Let me tell you, every time you get Angry you want Better things in Life. How? when you do get Angry, when things are not going the way you want it to. say for example, a subordinate of your is not performing the way you want to, then what do you do? you get angry, shout and so on. In fact most of the times anger is because of a feeling of guilt that you have not been to make the other person understand what you want them to do.This would result in Performance Loss. However if you feel that you have performed the best you tend to not get the best of the other person. The here in this situation a Feeling of Anger I would call as a Power Emotion because this emotion of yours will make to look at solutions. and when you look at solutions is this not a Power Emotion for you? So the next time you get Angry, do not worry much. You don’t need to probably express the anger but you can Definitely use it for yourself to attain better results.
Frustration: 
Wow! I love this for 2 reasons. One is that you are working so hard and you are not getting the results you want and you feel rustrated. And for feeling Frustrated you have done lot of Work which means that you have tremendous amount of learning’s. you keep changing something or the other and still it does not work which means that you are just a few more meters away from the result. Frustration that you are not able to get what you want will make you think rationally and You will avoid all those errors that you are bound to make otherwise. When you are Frustrated the only thing You must be careful of is to make sure that you are in control so that you do not falter with some small mistakes.
Overwhelming:
This is a feeling that is more often experienced by many especially ones who are working from Head to Toe on many things. People who have many responsibilities feel this. Overwhelming is not a great feeling many times. However is that also useful sometimes? Remember you go through a feeling of Overwhelming only when you are bombarded with so much of Information. That is when you tend to move towards solutions faster. The next time you feel overwhelmed, remember you can tackle with ease. All you need to do is just sit and jot down all those things that you need to complete. I use lots of Post-it notes, both on my Table also my Laptop’s Desktop (I mean the Software Version of Post-it Notes) and cut down one by one and thereby you will feel good for having completed and you start clearing your mind.
Fear and Anxiety:
Many people ask me is feeling anxious good or not. I love that to a certain extent. Just that you must never allow the fear to control you but Instead you must have to confront fear and face with utmost certainty. I always believe that the little amount of fear is useful because that’s when you give the 100%. else there is a certain amount of complacency that will crop In and because of which you will give your Best. Say a day before a very Important presentation (considering that You are doing it for the first time or even otherwise) you do not have any amount of fear and you are cool about it, you do not give the best in the Preparation Process. There will always be a marked difference between a Prepared effort and an Unprepared Action. You tend to be more careful, more organized and better prepared when you have that certain amount of fear. Just Ensure that you do not allow that fear to control you and instead you are in control of the same.
Guilt & Obsession:
Why do I call Guilt as a Power Emotion, simply because if you are not Guilty about Your Actions and Results, then you begin to justify all Your actions and give excuses. If you give an excuse, you start carrying a Victimized Mindset and then you tend to not change the way you are doing things. you must feel guilty for not fiving you best, and do more the very next time. Success is always an obsession and must be a Habit. When People say ‘he/she is obsessed’, I Love it because it means that they are Value adding for the work they are doing. If you were to do what you ought to do, then you are only “Value Sustainer” and there can be someone who can do the same. If you are obsessed for perfection then you do more than what is expected out of you and then you are the ones who stand out among the crowd.
These Power Emotions also need to be controlled to a great extent. You need to understand why these emotions are being experienced and then take the corrective measure to change the track of feeling the same way. At one point, though these are Called Power Emotions, most of them are Still Negative and do not eliminate the Negativity involved.
The entire Idea of this article was for you to understand how you can direct the Negative Emotions into more positive and directed result oriented Actions. So Take Charge now!
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Nivas -
Great post my friend. All of these emotions are essential for our growth. As snake is essential for the eco-friendly environment, vicious emotions or vices are essential for the cleansing of our mind. They come pouring like rain and wash all the bad feelings away. We just need to create awareness to feel them but not to attach with them. Let them go. That’s the art of living.
Shilpan
Interesting post. These emotions give us appropriate and adequate feedback whenever required. We need to see them as feedback and work on them accordingly.
Essential post. Power emotions are indicator of our actions. So we know better about our actions and we get best results.
Probably this post was just godsent. I read this when i came home really frustrated about certain things in office and coming home to know that my son has not performed well in his tests. I read life of excellence for finding solutions and also to handle issues. Thanks a LOT.
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I think i should rather call this “power of words “rather than power of emotions, the words which you have used defuses our tension and also gives a completely new perspective to all these things which are viewed otherwise in the society, for instance the word depression is used very commonly now a days by people but the real meaning is something far greater and repeated use tends to go toward it,
on the whole very good piece of writing!
nice article.
Excellent!. Thanks for showing the ‘Hidden Positives’ in the so called Negative Emotions. Hitherto I thought making the Minus into Plus is so easy in mathematics only, by just sriking the minus sign with a small verical line. But you have shown it will be so easy in life also!.
Excellent!. Thanks for showing the ‘Hidden Positives’ in the so called Negative Emotions. Hitherto I thought making the Minus into Plus is so easy in mathematics only, by just sriking the minus sign with a small vertical line. But you have shown it will be so easy in life also!.
I like your unique but true take on emotions that many people try to avoid feeling. Instead, as you say, you can use them to your advantage.
Power does not discriminate. It is up to us to use the power inherent in any emotion and turn it to help us either move forward or perhaps understand ourselves. Either way, in this sense, “everything furthers,” as David Carridine said
John
I agree completely, we need to use these powerful negative emotions to our advantage. They are only signaling that something is not right in our life–we have to listen to those signals and do something constructive about it. I write about this theme on my blog as well: http://mindfulconstruct.com
Anger is especially misunderstood by society as being bad and harmful–when in fact it is one of the greatest motivators for finding *positive* solutions.
I think this is an interesting post. But I question the depth of the author’s commitment to resolving emotional conflicts. The reason why I say this is because I have experienced ambivalent emotions all my life .. and I have been in situations where I have feared for my life many times. In retrospect, I believe now that it is more useful to simply feel your emotions .. and then let them go and move on to whatever you are doing. Emotions spring from a primitive part of the brain. Flight or fight derives
from times when humans faced danger on a daily basis. I think Buddhism offers
a more productive solution to the problem of human emotion. But it also requires
a lot of meditation to get to that point. The author’s solution is a bit simplistic.