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Top 8 Obstacles to Your Success in Life

I have discussed a lot on “ How to Achieve Success ” and “ Reach your Goals in Life! ” While I have been saying what to do, seldom to have I also written on “what not to do”. So this post will focus on few of the top reasons why people fail to achieve and do not reach success. To my understanding if you have any of these basic qualities (qualities of no achieving) then success becomes difficult. While for success you need everything, for failure you just need a few and you do not get the results, leading to desperation and give up ultimately.

You might not accept that you are not a person who gives up, but lets face the fact that yes we tend to give up sometimes. I am being absolutely practical, we do give up. Not that the most successful person does not give up or have fear but just that they learn and do something else quickly to overcome the same. This is what has got results what they have now. So it is imperative for us to understand this basic thing of life. If you are someone expecting to feel motivated and confident every single moment, I am sorry I really doubt if you can really find a solution anywhere in the world. You will have your own set of ups and downs and its how you react to the same and achieve more. If you can avoid these, life becomes better.

1. Lack of Plan

You might have heard this several times that’s if you do not have a Goal in life and plan for it, you will not achieve your results. This might be the most repetitive fact of not achieving success, but still I am going to reiterate the same to you too. I am so passionate about Goals that I tell every single person and ask them “What do you want”. There is no clarity in this for many people. Can you clearly tell me what do you want? Life still moves on even if you are not aware of what you want in your life, however the journey might not be smooth, might not be the way you want and will not get you satisfaction and a sense of achievement.

Even if you have a Goal, ensure that you have the right strategy to achieve the same. I know of many people who say ‘Yes yes I have a goal’, they fail to understand that they need some ways to achieve it. Sitting back and relaxing can never get the results.

2. Desire

Honestly, this has to come first even prior to setting Goals. Where is the fire in people? There is no purpose for their own life and they are not even curious about things of their life of what they have to achieve. They truly wish only to have the best, but there is no deep sense of desire. Its like having to run outside of a room. If I were to say there is something exciting waiting for your outside your room, how enthusiastic are you about running out? Say if you relaxing yourself in the couch with your remote in the hand and a bowl full of chips and sauce, will you ever get up to move? This is what is precisely happening in life too. Where as if I were to say there is fire inside the house what would you do? Would not even bother about who is there and what is there and run for your life.

Unfortunately all things that you want in life are not like the Fire, its like the piece of cake outside the room. You need to kindle the fire in yourself. If not, let me assure you will never achieve anything in life, because you perceive that you have everything in life.

3. Feeling unworthy

I see people who think that they cannot achieve thing simple because they are not aware of what to do and how to do. This in itself is a hurdle that stops them from achieving the best in life. Imagine if you think that you cannot do something, whatever happens you will only perform average. Failure is not the end results but only a means to the end. If this is understood clearly then you will not feel bad and sad for the results you produce. Moreover remember this fact that not everyone was born with qualities of achievement. Its becomes a habit. Winning is a habit, wanting to win is also a habit.

Remembering every time that you are capable, in itself is a habit. Having high self esteem is perhaps the most important quality that you must posses. If only you had the thought that irrespective of whether you will win or lose, you will take your stride forward for achieving excellence will.

4. Knowledge & Skills

This might not be the key reason to be successful, but important because at some point in time you need develop knowledge and skills. While experiences give certain results, continuous learning’s are very important. If we do not raise our skills and knowledge. Many school dropouts becoming successful, while they ensure that they keep updating their skills. They have people to manage their activities which require really skillful people. They learn from these people and start implementing them.

Like Steven Covey, author of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People says “Sharpen the Saw”. If you do not do this, you become obsolete and reaching your desired results becomes difficult.

5. Discipline & Time??

Are you one among those, who says “I do not have the time”? Success is a habit, its is not an occurrence or an accident. When you want to reach your ultimate Goal, you need to break them down into smaller chunks and you need to consistently achieve. You need to take action every single moment to make it big. When you want to achieve you set your own rules of the game. When you set the rules of the game of life, you must adhere to it. You do not do this, then how do expect to achieve the results you want? I doubt if you can ever do it.

Even the most successful person always finds time for Family, for doing what they like and passionate about. While every single person in the world have the same 24 hours day, how is that one person is able to achieve more than what is possible? Simple they are disciplined and manage the time giving it more importance. The 5 minutes of planning of time will get 1 hour of free time every day, but many fail to plan this. You will always be carried over with many things in life. There will not be a single day in life when you will not have work to do and if at all you reach a time when you lack work, it just means that you are not growing and you are not achieving.

6. Too big & Commitment

Many people fail to act within their limitations. While you must expand your belief and achieve more, you must also know what to achieve. Many people set unrealistic targets, like for example losing 10 kilos in a months time. You need to be sure if you can really achieve it. If not you get de-motivated for not being able to achieve. When setting your Goals you must do a Threats and opportunities chart and find out what is feasible for you.

Practicality and Capability are two different things. While you are capable of achieving anything, you need be practical in defining when and how. Many people fail to do so and hence they get bogged down for what is not achieved and give up so easily.

Many people lose because of the lack of commitment. There is always something that comes in the way of Life. Life never stops. If you are not committed to the Goal, you can never achieve it. People start giving excuses and become a victim of their own life. Reflect on yourself on the kind of Victim stories that you are giving yourself and hence accept that life is meant to be this way and can never get what they truly want.

7. Want a Genie and a Magic Lamp

Listen, Success is not a shortcut. It is next to impossible by achieving your dreams in a shortcut way. People look for shortcuts and quick fixes for everything. If you are one, be sure of the results. DISAPPOINTMENT. It is bound to happen, because for everything there is a way to achieve and never do you get the results what you want in the easiest possible way. What I mean is not that you must struggle to achieve your outcomes but must work for it.

One of the main reasons why people do not achieve is because they forget what to achieve and also think that things will happen without much of intervention. Unfortunately its their own life and they need to be control of their life. There is a Genie in everyone’s life? Guess who is that? If you did not replying saying “Its me” I am sorry you are mistaken. You are the only person who is responsible for your life. If people fail, they don’t remember this fact that they can only make a change in their life.

8. Fear

Do you want me to write about this? One top most reason you know is fear. Where does this fear come from? People dream and the dream remains only a dream and never becomes a reality because they refuse to take the step forward. I still can recall the Golf game when during the last round Greg Norman a champion was supposed to have a clean victory. He was world No. 1 and was a clear 10 shots ahead of the 2nd in the row. And on that Sunday, was the most dreadful for Greg Norman, because he lost. Why? Fear I guess would have been the reason. He had everything to lose while the others had nothing to lose and they won.

Life is very similar. You have nothing to lose, because you don’t have to feel embarrassed about things of life. Even if you don’t get the desired results nothing wrong because anyways you don’t get what you want by not doing. If you do not experience pain, then you do not get the muscles growing when you hit the gym. You will have some amount of pain when you do things. People fail because they fail to put back that fear which is only between their ears (I mean the mind). Just break free from all those limitations of life!.

CHANGE! This is one secret of people who are successful and also not successful. People are unwilling to change and accept that they need to change. People do not realize that the way to achieve things is by having a CHANGE in life. A Small change will create a huge difference in life. The Butterfly Effect says so. If you are willing to make the small difference in your life, then your dreams becomes a reality. If you can avoid these and take a step forward then you will reach faster towards your Goals. You must not be desperate but you must have that drive, that fire.

Without the fire in yourself, without realizing you have a Hero within to handle anything you cannot realize your dreams. Remember, life is a Miracle and not a surprise. We need to design life the way we want to. If you can take control and drive with safety you can get what you want. Be obsessed in life, obsession for achieving is important. Success is defined as achieving what you want to achieve in life. Obsession is good useful things of life. So be obsessed and achieve the best in life! Live with a purpose and Lead a Life of Excellence.

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